Love. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. It’s a word that is deeply grounded by intense and rare emotions. For me, love has gained even more intensity in this era where we ‘like’ and ‘heart’ a picture or status update in a fleeting moment. Sometimes not even pausing to properly process what we’re assigning our ‘like’ to (guilty as charged!). Yet, I think of love as a word, a feeling, or rather, an emotion, that I wouldn’t assign or associate to something without proper consideration. But how do you know when you love someone or something?
Just last week my heartmate and I were having a pendant light fitted in our apartment by an electrician we hired via an app. The project ended up being more complex than we first thought and it took all three of us around four hours of joint troubleshooting and work to get the light hung. Conversation between the three of us ebbed and flowed with ease and we eventually managed to complete the project.As the electrician was clearing away his tools and we were putting our apartment back together (you shoulda seen the chaos we created getting the light hung!), he stopped and asked us: “What’s your secret to finding the right one?” At first I thought he meant how did we choose him from the plethora of other electricians on the app, so I started explaining before he cut me off, laughing, saying that he meant us: Toby and I. “No, no, I meant you guys,” he said. “I know we’ve just met, and I don’t properly know you, but I’ve been here half the day you seem so compatible with one another; everything between you both is easy, natural and happy – how did you know each other was The One?”Toby and I looked at each other and paused. His surprisingly deep and personal question took us both by surprise. I guess we hadn’t really thought about it that explicitly. Why? Well there was no ah-ha moment. No movie-like moment where we suddenly gazed into one another’s eyes and decided there and then each of us were The One. It was because of this we struggled for an answer. Eventually, we agreed that he had answered his question to us in the question itself. He said he saw our partnership as being “easy, natural and happy” and in that he had explained how we knew we wished to get married.That’s not to say that love is a rose tinted world. Far from it. Love is ever changing, ever-growing. From those early days when everything is glossy and magical – when you are presenting the very best possible version of yourself to your new partner – through to the love that digs deeper than you thought possible to get you through darker days, weeks, heck – even months. Each of us leaning on one another for support to keep moving ahead. Sometimes in unison, sometimes one more than the other. Either way, always there to navigate life together.This April Toby and I will celebrate a decade together. Our lives have shifted in more ways than we could have imagined during the past ten years, but one thing for us both has been a constant: our love for one another. We’ve enjoyed incredible experiences and faced huge hurdles – all of this has built what love means to us. Moet’s vision to #OPENTHENOW sees every moment of one’s life as a new flavor to try. We see these moments of life – the good, the bad and the downright ugly – as being the sum of the love we share.Of course, the unbridled joy of a vacation or seeing a concert together is wonderful. However, it’s the quieter moments when I feel our love most strongly; the times when it’s almost tangible. When we catch one another’s eye across a crowded party, or feeling his arm next to mine during a rough patch of turbulence on a darkened plane. The quiet walks we take around our neighborhood. The laughter of games we play on long car journeys. Making dinner together. It’s these simple, everyday moments that that are elevated and special simply because we share them together. Sometimes we’re laughing, sometimes we’re bickering, but we’re always in love.You can follow Moet and their #OPENTHENOW vision via their new video, MOETUSA & MoetChandon.